Every morning we all wake up around the same time. I make my tea and get dressed, Drew lets the dog and ducks out, my older son empties the dishwasher, and my younger son starts his breakfast. This is our routine, and if someone is off we all feel it.
I like routines. We don’t live by a set schedule, but each member of our household has daily responsibilities and as the parents, we taught the kids to attend to these responsibilities around the same time each day. These routines form the framework of our day, with everything else fit in between them. By keeping our routines, we never feel rushed or behind, and we have plenty of room in our day for both work and leisure.
Weekly routines are also important. For example, I grocery shop on the same day at about the same time every week. We clean on the same day, and we do laundry on the same day. My son knows if he wants a certain shirt clean for an event on Thursday, it has to be in the laundry basket on Sunday. No need to ask, no need to panic, no need to search wildly for a clean shirt at the last minute. He knows my routine, so he can plan his accordingly.
I don’t write down our routines anymore, but in the beginning a visible list helps. Start with just a couple of routines you want to start. I think a mix of one or two daily and one or two weekly routines works well in the beginning. Move your laundry to the same day every week, or make it a goal to have dinner at the same time each night. Once those routines become habit, add a few more. You may even want to make a separate list of all the routines you would like to integrate into your life, and then mark them off once you succeed.
Keep in mind routines aren’t set in concrete. For example, if we have something that alters our normal dinner routine, there is always a back up plan. I have emergency meals in the freezer if something comes up last minute and we have to eat earlier or later, or if someone else has to take over the dinner routine. If I have advance notice of the event, I will adjust the dinner plans and routine in advance.
Try a routine, I think you will like the extra time and productivity it adds into your day!